laekin ([info]laekin) wrote,
@ 2005-07-28 12:41:00
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Disturbing Trends


http://www.wtop.com/?sid=547456&nid=25

This story disturbs me on a number of levels. As a mother of a young child obviously it disturbs me. As many of the people who might read this would not be aware of the geography, this woman did this and kept on driving for almost 2 hours before the police stopped her. This was a not a case of drop off, drive a few feet and see if a lesson was learned. She wasn't coming back. Secondly, I-495 is probably one of the busiest roads on the East Coast. That good semaritans found this child and not an accident with a tractor trailer or a predator is a gift from somewhere to this little boy.

It is impossible for me to wrap my mind around how someone could think like this but at the same time...it fits in disturbingly well with something I've been thinking about recently.

There is a lot of talk about the effects of the internet and e-mail, especially e-mail in the corporate world. My company -which you all know how well we all communicate...or don't- is a prime example of what is called managing through e-mail. Very rarely is there any face to face interaction and it's safe to say that this remote form of management allows for a certain...disassociation between people.

People...become disposable commodities in this cyber world. It becomes way to easy to forget that there is a person on the other end of that e-mail or that IM. A person with quirks and foibles, feelings and hopes. It's easy for managers to loose sight of their employees as people with families and senses of humor, strengths and weaknesses.

It becomes way to easy to think of people as nothing more than a flip of the power switch, a click of the mouse a stroke of the enter key.

Makes me wonder if that sentiment is starting to manifest itself outside the cyber world as well. When I worked as a Vet tech I saw it all the time with people's pets.

Cat clawed the furniture...put it down.
Cat needed insulin for the rest of it's life to control diabetes...too much work, get rid of it.
I read an article where a man brought his pets into the local shelter to have them destroyed because he was going on vacation and didn't want to pay boarding fees.

Now, we have a mother leaving her 4 year old child on the side of a dangerous busy freeway...HITTING HIM with the car when he tried to get back in and driving off with no more thought about him then if he was an empty soda can she threw out the window.

It's disturbing...




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[info]stormcloude
2005-07-28 06:57 pm UTC (link)
I think that boy is better off with CPS. I can only imagine how she treated him at home.

A person with quirks and foibles, feelings and hopes. It's easy for managers to loose sight of their employees as people with families and senses of humor, strengths and weaknesses.

You know, I've worked for the same company for the past 4 years and even when I was going into the office everyday, the managers had lost sight of that. They just wanted a automan to come in do the work and go home when they said we could. The HR person had to point out that they were breaking the law by working the employees so hard they didn't have time for lunch breaks and they still frown at us when we take our -legally mandated- 10 minute breaks.

There's many more reasons, but I'd be -very- glad to be managed by email.

That's the whole reson I wanted to work out of my house-- so I wouldn't have to deal with their arrogance and stupidity.

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[info]laekin
2005-07-28 07:13 pm UTC (link)
Oh heck, I've long forgotten what a lunch break is. What I mind about being managed by e-mail is that the managers use very abrupt, arrogant language and they often come across not only as arrogant and stupid but also very condescending and patronizing.

Also instructions are never clear.

E-mail: "Do this."
Response from me: "Okay, given your request here is the work."
E-mail: "No, I don't want it like. Fix this and this and this and...just redo the whole thing and resubmit."

Me under my breath: Could you have just walked ten steps down the corridor and explained what you wanted in the first place?

Also, there have been more fights in my office because someone sent a crappily composed e-mail that should never have been sent containing language that would NEVER have been said in a face to face conversation and it is just a complete FUBAR of a situation now.

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[info]laekin
2005-07-28 07:13 pm UTC (link)
though...gottah agree with you that if I could be managed by e-mail and stay home...that might work! :D

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[info]lisandrayajuujo
2005-07-29 04:39 am UTC (link)
See, that's my dad right there with the pet thing, only he was marginally more humane. 'Puppy chewed on the juicer... give it back to the ASPCA.' Nevermind that the idiot left the chair right there for him to climb on, plus left the brand new juicer on the edge of the table where said puppy could munch on.

Which just confims the fact that most parents (or pet owners, who I think are just slightly different types of parents anyway) aren't taking responsibility for what they should. Discipline isn't abandoning your pet or (gods forbid) child. Moral responsibility isn't complaining to one's government about tacking mature content labels on video games and stuffing v-chips in television sets. Good parenting is something that has to be done 100% of the time, even if it means they take the extra time in learning what their child likes to watch on TV, or play on their video game console.

And to think, some parents just sit back and complain about how kids are getting worse and worse nowadays -- when they fail to realize it's their own fault. Sadly, I wouldn't be surprised if that kid ended up a little skewed when he gets older, what with a mother like that.

As for work? I think I was mighty lucky to get the manager I did when I was working at Macy's Herald Square... she was always understanding when it came to my back problems (a very bad thing to have when one is standing at a register for 4-6 hours straight with no break), always gave me time to clean up the stock room (and sit down while doing it) when I got too exhausted, and never pressured me to make old ladies open up Macy's card accounts. Most other people in the store didn't get as lucky as I did, and they had the managers in their face 24/7, going so far as to call up personal cellphones and house phones if they were running late or couldn't come in for reasons beyond their control. I think Macy's in particular could use for some impersonal email handling on the managerial level, for SOME of those managers, anyway.

Though there's the fact that we barely see the people above the managers, and that always used to tick me off -- they'd come down from the office floors a few times a year and get nitpicky with how we were making things work, when they've never seen the floor in action on big selling days and therefore wouldn't know what works if a full register hit 'em square in the... erm, that's enough outta me.

*sneak sneak*

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[info]gsyh
2005-08-19 04:12 am UTC (link)
The internet helped, but this was definitely there before. Consumerism fettish, where a thing or person's worth is tied to its $. Homeless people = $0 = Invisible / to be put out of sight. Paris Hilton = $$$ = spotlight for the sake of having $$$

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[info]gsyh
2005-08-19 04:21 am UTC (link)
At [info]stupidpetowners

Worth = $ worth

danasaur- "hi mom, sorry i couldn't make it. smudge was really sick and had to be put to sleep
mom- "smudge? who's smudge?"
d- "the rat. the older one"
m- "with the pink eyes? that one? they do that for rats? how much did you pay?"
d- "60 dollars
m- "SIXTY DOLLARS?! for a RAT?? you can buy a rat for 2 dollars! why would you pay that much to kill one?!"
d- "well, she was suffering...and she was my friend...i duidnt want her to suffer.."
m- "you could have just given her rat poison! people pay less then 60 dollars to have humdreds of rats killed. and you payed 60...for one?"
d- "well...she was a pet"
m- "seriously, you need to get rid of those rats. they cost you too much money. it's not like they're cats or dogs. they're rats! you cant be paying 75 dollars for vet visits and 60 dollars to kill them."

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